THE DATING PATTERN AUDIT
What you say you want vs. what you choose.
Compare your relationship priorities with three to seven meaningful dating experiences. The point isn’t to judge your taste. It’s to notice what your own history may be trying to tell you.
What you say you want
Consistency.
You named it as one of your top standards.
What your history may show
Your highest-chemistry relationships also had the lowest consistency.
Strong chemistry isn’t the problem. Your answers might show where it sometimes outweighs qualities you say matter. That’s a useful observation—not a diagnosis or a rule about what to do next.
Every insight is grounded in your answers. If the pattern isn’t there, the audit won’t pretend it is.
A GENTLER KIND OF DATA
Your answers are the evidence.
Start with a free “What’s Your Dating Pattern?” quiz. The full Dating Pattern Audit goes deeper, using the choices and experiences you bring to it.
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Name what matters to you
Values, communication, emotional and physical chemistry, money, lifestyle, future goals, and dealbreakers.
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Look across real experiences
Reflect on three to seven meaningful connections: attraction, consistency, reciprocity, red flags, what you tolerated, and why things ended.
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Spot repetition. Choose a next step.
See where chemistry, compatibility, standards, and investment line up—or don’t— then leave with questions to reflect on and one experiment for future dating.
THE TAKEAWAY
Not a label. A clearer next move.
Your Pattern Profile brings the threads together so you can decide what to keep, question, or try differently.
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Your primary dating pattern
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Chemistry alongside emotional, physical, and financial compatibility
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Stated standards compared with actual choices
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Repeated red flags, what you tolerated, and your relationship strengths
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Three to five personal insights, reflection questions, and one experiment
A PERSONAL PATTERN PROFILE
Hunnay… we found a pattern.
Maybe a Spark Chaser. Maybe a Slow Leaver. These are playful names for patterns—not personality types, diagnoses, or boxes to fit into. Your answers decide what belongs.
A LITTLE SELF-AWARENESS, A LOT OF AGENCY
Your history can inform your next choice. It doesn’t get to make it for you.
Curious about the free quiz or the Dating Pattern Audit? Tell us what you’d like to understand about your own patterns.